Mommy and Me Time

Project 365 – #057

As Munchkin grows older, I’m seeing more and more how important it is for us to have “mommy and me” time. Typically, when I hear Mommy and Me, I think of something for younger kids, but the reality is that older kids need that special one-on-one time just as much as the younger kids.  In fact, I think to some degree they may actually need it more.  They need to know that although they are growing older they can be secure in the love of their parents.

The importance of nurturing a healthy relationship and encouraging open lines of communication can not be overstated.  Munchkin needs to know that she can come to me and talk about anything.  Now, that obviously means that there will be some uncomfortable moments at times, but it’s worth it to know that she’s talking to me about important things in her life.  Does she still talk to her friends?  Sure, but she also knows that I have a listening ear when she needs it.

When Munchkin does decide to come to me to talk, I need to make sure that I listen – really listen to what she has to say.  There are times that we’re just goofing around and she doesn’t need/want my full attention, but there are other times when I need to completely focus on what she’s saying – no distractions.  I want to make sure she knows that she’s more important than a show that I’ve taped, things I need to get done on the computer, or household tasks.  Do I always get that right?  Not exactly – it’s something I’m constantly working on.

A couple of weeks ago, we watched a movie called Heartstrings.  It was done by homeschool kids.  While the quality isn’t quite something that you would go pay for at a movie theater, it was well done and entertaining.  It also had a great message.  It talked about making sure you had your child’s heart.  The father in the movie said that there needs to be heartstrings connecting your heart to their heart.  What a beautiful picture.  It was a wonderful reminder to me that I need to make sure that I’m genuinely connecting with Munchkin.  I want to have Munchkin’s heart.

Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord, and the fruit of the womb is his reward.~Psalm 127:3~

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