For this week’s Marriage Monday over at Fruit in Season, we are being asked to talk about ways that we lift up and encourage our husbands.
This is one that I can easily write about as D has recently told me some of the things that I have done recently (and in the past) that really encourage and lift him up. It’s always nice when we get a nice little bit of help in that area.
One of the main ways that I can really lift up and encourage my husband is by making sure our daughter and our home is taken care of while he is away. He knows that I will keep things running while he’s away, so he’s able to focus on the task at hand. It’s really difficult for our spouses to do a good job at work if they always have to worry about things at home, so I do my best to ease whatever concerns he may have while he’s away.
I do my best to help him out with “his chores” whenever possible, so he will have more time to spend with the family. At times, this means that I’ll mow the lawn, so he won’t have to do it on the weekend. At other times, this just means taking on some home improvement jobs myself, so when he is home, he doesn’t have to focus on those types of things.
When he’s working on schoolwork, I make sure I find ways to keep munchkin busy, so he can get his schoolwork done. This also means that I like to make sure that he has good munchies and all the beverages that he needs during study time.
I also make sure that I don’t speak poorly about him to others. I lift him up in front of others (including our child) and I treat him with respect. Our daughter knows that he is the “boss” in our house, but she also knows that Daddy respects my opinion. We’re trying to be a good example of a healthy, Godly marriage. That does not include mocking or disrespecting our spouse. When we do something wrong, we openly admit it and munchkin sees/hears this.
I encourage him by asking him about his day and allowing him to have some down time (usually) when he gets home from work. I make sure (usually) that he has a good meals to eat. I praise him for tasks that he’s done well. I encourage him to have fun with things that he enjoys (like bike riding and working on his truck). Is this always easy? No, but ultimately, it makes things more pleasant all around if he has time to do the things that he loves.
When he’s working outside or on his truck, we’ll keep him company and sometimes help (depending on the task at hand). It’s nice to have someone to talk to when you’re working, even if they’re not actually helping.
Most importantly, I tell him that I love him and that I’m proud of him. I am truly blessed to be married to a Christian man who knows the value of family and a hard days work. I look forward to reading other ways that women lift up and encourage their spouses.
Great post! You have some wonderful things on your list- speaking well of him in public being the most important, I think. I forgot to put that down!
And you’re my hero for mowing the lawn…
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What a blessing you are to your husband. We have some of the same thoughts on ways to encourage our husbands.
What a nice way to remember our marriages. If you would like to participate in another meme on Mondays, I’m hosting a new one… come by and leave your link if you want! http://snpnmnmi.wordpress.com/
I think the way we speak about our husbands does make such a difference. Whether it’s to him or about him, that attitude we speak with shows in our actions too. Great post!
bless u
i sometimes do the lawns too and maintance work. Girls can do anything 🙂
Great wisdom. I have been enjoying these Monday posts.
I also make sure that I don’t speak poorly about him to others.
This is the wisest of all things we can do for our guys. Wonderful. Love, Lynn
I agree with you and the others about the importance of speaking kindly about our husbands. You and I would make great neighbors mowing the lawn!
I tell my Sweetheart too how blessed I am that I am married to him :)…And I tell him that he makes me laugh when I need.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this week’s topic.
That was beautiful. I don’t know how to use or even start up our lawn mower and it’s only been used once! The grass is in a terrible state at the moment and we’re due to move out in 3 weeks (with a fair amount of angst towards the landlord & agent for being so bad with urgetn repairs to broken tiles). Thanks for inspiring me to consider learning how to use the mower. Great meme too – I’m quite sick of the hollywood “breakups” display on all the magazines at the supermarket and look forward to perusing it further to see other great examples of marriages working WELL.
Kudos to you and i wish you all the best.